The negleted married woman..help....

I got married when I was 20 years old and have been married for 6 years .I admit that I have cheated on my husband more then once. I remember clearly that the first time was after 2 years into our marriage. It was due to neglect. My husband was never home for me. He works till late in the night  as this allows him to earn a bit more money from overtime allowances. So by the time he comes home it is usually in the morning and always too tired for anything and during the day while I am out and going about doing things he would be at home sleeping. It all started on one of the lonely night, while he was away, I would search on the internet for someone to chat with and listen to me. One thing lead to another and sex became a big part in those relationships.

Three months later, my husband noticed some changes, stopped the night duties and the problem was assumed resolved. At first, we started working towards improving the marital issues between us, we started working things out and we again seemed much more in love.  

I decided to put those affairs behind me by telling myself that I was young/ naive and not sure of what I really wanted. I soon realized that I wasn't too young after all. I actually really enjoy the attention and the doting by other men and that I do enjoy their companion.

  I also realized that there are things that are missing from my relationship with my husband and that it can never be found with him. So I decided to continue searching for other man that can fulfill these missing desires, while I keep them undercover for the sake of my husband.

I really need to come out of this but am so engrossed in it

For working mothers……….i partially agree with this article. Do you?

Marriage is one of the most important decisions in a lifetime, a serious commitment, which will pave out the years of the married couples life. This engagement between a man and a woman is a promise of love during both difficult times and happy times, both have obligations towards one another as well as rights.

Nowadays, the hectic rhythm of life sometimes creates overwhelming obstacles for the couple. Those woman with jobs or career`s find it more and more difficult to cope with work and their families at once. We all know that sometimes, it is impossible to do so, a woman has a set of family responsibilities at home, especially when our kids are young, having job responsibilities and deadline will cause an undue stress that will lead to the deterioration in the couple’s relationship.

Statistically married women have elevated rates of depression as opposed to unmarried ones, and this is an issue that most marriages will be faced with during their life together. This is caused by marital stress and conflicts in relationship and roles.

We must be sensitive to the symptoms of depression, hypertension, feeling of sadness, anxiety, fatigue, energy loss and withdrawal from activities, loss of interest in one self and other as well as in sex.

Working mothers are prone to depression for they bear the weight of household work and their jobs together, working in two different environments which are completely different to one another. The double rols they play are simply too much for most women to endure.

Do Christian husbands have problem? Hmmmmm

I have been praying for some time now to find some help and friend, was referred to this site today. Please take time to read this and pray and advise me if you can.

I have been married for 30 years and  at the edge of my breaking point. My husband and I have no relationship, we live in a beautiful house but separated, he is in one part of the house while am in another, we haven’t slept in the same bed in over 3 years. We haven’t had sex in about 2 years and half now. He talks to me in a disrespectful manner and am tired of it.

My husband is a flirt, supposed Christian/ spirit filled, commits all sorts without any form of apology, we are supposed to be Christians and it didn’t start out like this. He committed adultery nine years ago and we have tried as much as we can to work it out, I also found out that he clubs and drinks in a daily basis.

Anytime I think that I’ve forgiven him, something he does or says will bring it up to my mind. The kids are the reason  am still In the marriage and trust me, I have paid great price for it.

I honestly know that this is not the will of God for two Christians to live like this, we tried counseling but  it didn’t work for us. I was getting tired of the ups and downs and no longer healthy for both of us.

 I was at the point that Agape love was what we believed that will turn the marriage around.

 

Should I date my late husband’s best friend?

Hi, my husband passed away two years ago, due to the circumstances surrounding his death and his actions before his death. I became very close to his best friend who has always been there for me and the kids.

During these periods, my husband’s best friend and I have become closer, and  today, he called to ask for us to hang out.

I am not sure if this is the right thing for me to do , I am very uncertain…..i have heard about people dating their deceased husband or wife’s best friend. What do you think?

On the other side I feel that my husband still want me to happy and I can’t help this feeling that am  betraying him. I guess I have some serious thinking to do!