Wednesday, 29 August 2012

Should i cheat on my husband.

Thanks Kenny for opening this blog,this is timely. My name is Judith and will like other women to hear my story and advise me on what to do.I met my husband during my NYSC days and love sparked from there,had so many suitors but choose him because of the love i had for him.The marriage is blessed with 4 kids. My husband was a bank manager when we first met and all things were going on well till i became pregnant,my husband started keeping late nights,sleeps out,womanise and i became a punching bag.The worst part was my joblessness. He rose to an Executive position and the nextel thing...He moved out and moved in with a widow at Ikeja. God gave me a job and the burden was less. He had an issue in his company and they sacked him,he came back pennyless. He has been jobless and at home for years now. I am the sole bread winner of the whole house,the school fees of four kids and the rent is always waiting for me to take care of. Recently,i met a man and without knowing it,started having feelings for him. I told him my story and he offered to assist me with the childrens school fees,though no intimacy but i know that may happen soon. What should i do?
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  1. Victorious Wife. Encouraging wives daily.29 August 2012 at 15:08

    Hi Judith,thank God you've found me. What you are about doing is wrong before God and man. Think of what will happen if you are caught. You have a job to sustain the family. I'll suggest you change their school to the ones you can afford.

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    1. Unknown30 August 2012 at 00:26

      Hello Judith,

      Am afraid you are at the verge of destroying what GOD is giving you an opportunity to build. My dear cheating is not the solution to your problem. For you to have accepted your husband back shows u are a virtuous one and has the heart to forgive. If the financial burden of raising the family is way too high, consider cutting down on your cost in areas you deem it fit necessary… like changing their school to a less so expensive one. Changing accommodation to something convenient but yet not so expensive. You also need to sit your husband down and talk about the situation of things. Loosing is job is not the end of the road. … He can rise up again only if he gives himself that opportunity to be a man that God has ordained him to be.
      What you also need is a place of prayer…..Remember what Jesus said ‘and my house shall be called a place of prayer’ what you need now is to pray for restoration of your marriage and God should build you a Godly home, all this can be achieved at the place of prayer. Kneel before God and talk to HIM he said behold I stand at the door of your heart knocking………………..please open up to God and find peace and rest in the confine of HIS endless love.
      Jane-Karen

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  2. Victorious Wife. Encouraging wives daily.30 August 2012 at 10:42

    From this story,i guess you are not born again. Infidelity is a sin against God. In marriage the foundation matters, if a marriage is founded in Christ, it has a higher chance of success. You Said you married your husband because of the love you have for him,did you find out if he loves you too. What you should do now is to get close to God,and embrace Christ as your Lord and Saviour.God that sustained you throughout the trying period will not leave you and your children alone; you don't need another man,you need God.The recompense your husband has received by loosing his job is enough,don't pay back evil with evil. Forgive him and pray for him. God will use this situation to change him to become a better husband and equally give him a financial breakthrough.
    Joy C.

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  3. Dchukwu7 September 2012 at 10:28

    There is no justification for adultery.If you want to commit a sin then go into it with your eyes open. No need to dig up a pathetic story to justify it.

    Even if your husband moved in with another women, he repented and returned to you.You had a choice- divorce him or remain married. As long as you are married, you must not justify adultery.Consider the lives that action will affect: you,your husband,your children,your family,his family,your firends,his friends, your lover,his children,his wife,his family,his wife's family,his friends,her friends etc. All those just for a 5 minute rite(most men do nt even last upto 5 minutes).

    So consider what it will be like if you were to jump into bed with that prey only to jump out before you could get your clothes off!And then 14 lives changed for ever for that.

    Best advise- stop relaying your personal problems to male friends.

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